Second Chances

Do you believe in second chances for people? If so, why? If you don't, why not?

Personally for me it's very subjective. It depends on what kind of fuck up that someone did to deserve another chance. I'm not going to give another chance to Hitler just because he is sorry for killing millions of people. The Holocaust took years to get it done and did it not occurred to him that his plan is just bad in between those years? Dudeeeeee that took like a shitton of integrity and dedication and commitment to get it done, it took your conscious mind to go through with that plan. If your mind can't sense that's a bad thing, you're screwed. Geez even thinking about mass genocide is just plain evil let alone going through with it.

In general, I do believe in second chances. everybody makes mistakes...and sometimes they don't realize how much their mistake will truly affect them. Personally for me the best teacher in life is my mistakes. Only through them (yes I have that many) I learnt the valuable lesson that I still carried until this day. Do as much mistakes as you possibly could in life and learn from it but don't go jump out from a 3rd floor building so you can learn that it's a fucking stupid mistake. Take my words with a grain of salt. Might have to start using your brain there. Come on. Anyways, a lot of times, "second chances" have to do with cheating. sometimes people don't know what they truly have and it takes a big mess up to make them realize "oh my god, what was I thinking?" that's not always the case though but since you never truly know, I'd say give the person a chance. I do NOT however believe in 3 strikes you're out. Second chances? Yes, but I'll never give them a third. If you give someone a second chance and they screw up again - it means that they did not learn from their first mistake which means they won't learn from a second or third or fourth but there is no such thing as a second chance if you don't fully forgive the person for what they did. This can go with any subject - not just infidelity. 

I try not to cut what I can untie. To an extent. For example, I will NEVER date an ex (fuck all of you, I know you're reading this), but I will give ample opportunities to correct whatever would potentially make that person become an ex. Mind you, that's a fairly small scale example. If I were given the choice to hire a convict, honestly, it would depend on the interview. Each person/situation is different. There are many men/women who are incarcerated, that would not have done the crime had they been sober or not high on drugs. They sit behind bars and grieve so often for what they have done. Not only does it effect them, but they realize had they been in a normal frame of mind, this would not have taken them away from the children/family. If they could guarantee completely staying sober and never take a drink again, they would deserve a second chance. The Laws are strict, that is why we need to remember when you do the crime, you do the time. There are always two sides to every story. It depends on how close I am to the situation and the people involved.

I believe that giving someone a second chance is like giving that someone the power to correct the wrong thing that he had done. It would be unfair to hinder someone the right to be seen in another light because we are not God. To my atheist friends, a God is a very strict judgmental being. God doesn't give a fuck. God is a badass mofo. God is very sick in the head. Don't be like God. (Bruhhhh ._.). When we give someone a second chance, we should make sure that we give it to them completely for them to feel that we put trust on them. The most inhuman thing that we do often is that we give people second chances but we don't invest trust along the way, it's like the whole thing is as good as nothing. 

I do believe people can change. I know because I changed. At first it was hard for me not going to deny it. After 8 years living with drugs and alcohol I needed to change. I'm 23 years old now, I can't just live as Barney Stinson forever. I have to man up and become Ted Mosby eventually. Live is all about transformations. The journey of the transformation is what makes life...well, Life. Without it, it just plain static with same shit every single day for the rest of your life. From you're born, till you become a baby, then a toddler, a kid, a teen, a man, an elder then you will die. The journey of these transformation is Life. I've seen very few people significantly change their ways. Before I associate with anyone that has major issues that would cause me not to want to be around them, they must establish a track record of not fucking up for quite a while before I give them another chance. One of the things that has improved my quality of life significantly in the last few years is being very selective about who I associate with. If I do give someone a second chance I make it clear that there will be a probationary period and if they fuck me over just once during that time they get no more chances. It really depends on the time frame. People don't change within a couple minutes, but they might change over a couple of weeks/years. some just take longer to grow up or find their way.

Never judge someone's actions without context. Life is almost never black and white, it is full of moral grey areas. Everyone deserves a chance to better themselves. However, there are some people that for whatever reason cannot change. Allow people to try and change, but be prepared for the possibility that they won't. 

'Life is a game, you take risks on daily basis to know that life is a game. Just like a game, sometimes you can't clear a stage in just one sweep, you need to retry and keep retrying and not to repeat the mistakes that you did in the previous round for only then you may clear that stage' 

-Me